Friday, March 23, 2012

Stupid Is as Stupid Does


[stoo-pid, styoo] Show IPA adjective, -er, -est, noun
1. lacking ordinary quickness and keenness of mind; dull.
"Grammy, you said a bad word," Gabby informed me.
"I did?"
In her lecture voice, "You said the 'S' word."
Hm. The 'S' word. I guess it is a bad word to say about someone. And....I guess I use the word to comment saying, "Well, that was stupid!"  But in reality this first definition of 'stupid' seems to fit me quite well of late. 
I seem to be doing a lot of things wrong.  It's not for lack of trying. I do it quite easily. I wonder if there is a cure for this? Perhaps the word is more of a personal word for me. I wouldn't dream of calling someone else dull or a little slow in the 'git along'. I wouldn't use the 'S' word on a whim. I know how words can hurt. So why do I use a cutting word on myself?

The older I get the more I seem to forget. I know from talking to other friends that I'm not alone. I walk into a room and forget what I went after. Walk back out and remember. Get side tracked. Walk back in the room and forget again. It's like the room erases my memory as soon as I walk into it. I'm sure it does. 

I remember long ago my sisters and I talking about how scattered Mom was at times. Well, Mom had been scattered all of her life. She was a fun, wacky woman. Her mind was quick. And, like I am finding, her mind could not process all of the eighty some years of data that was stored in her brain in order to remember what she had walked into the room to find. It was part of the aging process.

I find, too, that the 'S' word comes into play when I open my mouth expecting my family to know all that I have learned in my sixty some years when they are not ready to understand yet. We make the journey to find our answers sometimes forgetting that others have just begun their journey. We hold the answers for ourselves, and, I'm learning that I should keep them to myself. Argh! Stupid is as stupid does.

Well, my granddaughter is correct in her assessment of the the 'S' word. She doesn't understand that sometimes we just feel stupid. The good thing is that I can laugh at myself and my mistakes. It has taken those sixty some years to learn that skill. 

So I'll close with this: Perhaps you feel a bit stupid at times, but whatever you do, don't say the 'S' word.


  1. You are right but we all tend to be hardest on ourselves. I'm really going to try and eliminate the S word. Good post.

  2. I'm glad that our children are being taught not to say stupid. Such a hurtful word!