Friday, May 27, 2011

Scissor Girl

School. A place where children should be safe. A place where we send them to learn. What lessons do they learn outside of the text book?

"What's wrong, Honey," I asked  my oldest granddaughter when she got into the car.

Something was very wrong.

"The girl behind me in class cut my hair."

That maternal protectiveness kicked in.

"What did you say to her?"

"I didn't know what to do."

My granddaughter wouldn't hurt a flea. She has always been the type of girl that everyone likes. Being popular is not important to her. She would rather spend her time just being herself. So what's with scissor girl?

"Do you know her?" I asked.

"Not very well."

Evidently, the girl cut a small piece of her hair dropping it on the floor then turned around talking to the kids around her ignoring what she had just done. Not acceptable.

Stacey sent an email to the teacher. She did not receive a response; however, Sydney was called to the principals office the next day. When she walked into the office, scissor girl immediately apologized. She had no excuse. She just cut the hair. Nothing against Sydney. She doesn't even know Sydney. So what's up?

School days are difficult. I had my hurts in school as did my children. My youngest granddaughter is picked on all the time. She is full of energy and so sweet. I don't get it. Why are some children mean?

Learning experiences. They are all learning experiences even when difficult, even when unfair. School is the mini-model of the world they will grow in to. My heart goes out to those kids who have no one to help them make this journey. They bring their anger and disappointment to school. They are wrapped in a cloak of loneliness and anger. And, some just take their meanness to school.

Scissor girl had gone immediately to her teacher after class telling her what she had done to Sydney. She had no idea why she had done it, but she did know it was wrong. Sydney did not leave the experience with anger. Instead she had compassion for a girl and learned a bit more about this thing called life.

Darn, life is hard.

1 comment:

  1. Sometimes kids do just do things because they can. Learning impulse control is very important, and it sounds as if everyone involved learned something from the Scissor Girl episode.