Friday, March 4, 2011

For Those Men Who Care

Daily I write about being a grandma, a grandma without a grandpa. Today I write about the importance of a good man in the life of a family.

Men, you are important. The time that you take to call your child, the effort you make to attend special events, the special times that only you can have with the child need to be recognized.

My father was an important man in my life. I was his shadow. He was my hero. Many times my dad and I took walks talking the entire time. Dad showed me things and taught me lessons that have carried on through my entire life. He gave me one on one attention on a daily basis even if it were no more that a short conversation on our way to the barn. He always stopped what he was doing to greet me. Dad taught me that men could be kind and thoughtful. Oh, he had his temper and lost it often. I learned the bad side of Dad along with the good. Not until I was grown did I realize more of what made Dad tick.

I didn't know my grandfathers well. They were farmers with little time for a grandchild. I truly can't remember a conversation with either grandfather. When we moved to Wisconsin, my mom's father kissed me on the cheek, a memory I treasure. A once in a lifetime. My grandfather died a few months later.

My brother-in-law is a fantastic grandfather. The boys adore him. The youngest called him maw. He gives attention to the boys and warm, loving arms. He knows what a gift it is to be a grandpa.

Men, you are important in the lives of your children and grandchildren. They need that time alone with a loving man. They need to know you, to share with you, to have that love only you can give to them.

More than anything, I miss having someone to share the wonderful experiences with me as they happen.

For those men who wouldn't miss a moment of the children's lives, bravo. For those men who spend quality time with their children and grandchildren, you are my heroes. For those of you raising your children, your grandchildren, I admire you. For those men, uncles, fathers, grandfathers, stepfathers, friends, who take time to help with the children in their family, to teach them, to care for them, to build their self-confidence, you are appreciated.

Today, I honor those men who care. Thank you.


  1. Jake, I have great respect and admiration for you. You are a pearl among men.

  2. I join you in honoring men who care. I adore today's hands-on dads and grandfathers. But those men who may not be so hands-on but who still put their families first also deserve kudos.

  3. Thanks for your input, Susan. I agree.

  4. My husband is spending time with our granddaughter that he couldn't spend with his daughters. He even gets a kick out of changing diapers. It is so special watching their relationship develop.

  5. Good for him, Amma. Lucky are the grandparents who get the 'do-over' with grandkids.

  6. I could not agree with you more! Unfortunately, my daughters don't have any engaged grandfathers, but their father is very much engaged and it's wonderful to see them bloom under his attention. When they have children, I know he will spend the same quality time with his grandchildren that he has with his daughters. I'm happy to join you in your tribute.

  7. Gina, their father will set the tone for what they look for in a husband and father of their children. He is giving them a beautiful gift. Thank you for your comment.