Monday, November 30, 2009

Please Don't Worry

"Grammy, if anything happens to Mommy and Daddy will you take care of us," Syd asked. We were watching ' Lemony Snicket's Series of Unfortunate Events’.

"You never need to worry about being alone. You will always have a home with me or Uncle, but nothing will happen. Please don't worry."

"Are there really children out there like that who don't know where they will live?"

Ouch, how do you explain war, poverty, abandonment, death? I remember crying worried about similar things when I was small asking, "Will you die some day? Who will take care of me?" Every child wonders and silently worries.

We often drove past the children's home on our way to Aunt Alma's house. I remember wondering why no one would want the children. I didn't realize then that my great grandmother and great grandfather had been superintendents of the home. What a difficult task trying to give children hope in a parentless life. I wish I could ask Grandmother Angelina how she did it? How did she tuck the children into bed and dry tears without losing her heart? Did the children keep in touch when they were grown? What happened to the children who were angry and would not accept help? So many questions, so many.

My two granddaughters will never hurt for lack of loving arms to embrace them. A divorce has been difficult for them. Fears are a little closer to the surface, insecurity hides in the shadows. I do what I can to keep them strong and to empower them. Is it enough?

"Bless the beast and the children for in this world they have no voice, they have no choice." The song echoes in my mind so many times. We are the voice for the children. Perhaps we are the hope for the future in the hope we give them.

1 comment:

  1. I've just been doing a lot of thinking on this very subject. I just finished writing an article about dealing with divorce for my grandparents website. It is a subject that I've been needing to address for a long time, but it's a painful topic to me because my son went through a very traumatic divorce a few years ago. If I had one wish for this world, it would be that all children would have homes with people who love them, and that all the other people who love them could see them freely and frequently. What a wonderful world it would be!